“And there was strife between the herdsmen of Abram’s livestock and the
herdsmen of Lot’s livestock. The Canaanites and the Perizzites then dwelt in
the land. So Abram said to Lot, “Please let there be no strife between you
and me, and between my herdsmen and your herdsmen; for we are brethren.” (Genesis 13:7-8 NKJ)
The holiday seasons are so
stressful and filled with perplexity. When we are young, we simply do whatever
the rest of the family does, wherever it is to be done. When I was growing up,
our immediate family celebrated most major holidays at my maternal grandparents’
home with my mother’s sisters’ families.
stressful and filled with perplexity. When we are young, we simply do whatever
the rest of the family does, wherever it is to be done. When I was growing up,
our immediate family celebrated most major holidays at my maternal grandparents’
home with my mother’s sisters’ families.
But when I got married, the
perplexity began. Where would we go for Thanksgiving or Christmas lunch? With
whom would we celebrate? It became a scheduling nightmare, because Bobbie and I
didn’t always want to do what the other members of our families wanted to do.
It wasn’t merely a “when” problem but also a “where” issue. And there was the
travel involved too.
perplexity began. Where would we go for Thanksgiving or Christmas lunch? With
whom would we celebrate? It became a scheduling nightmare, because Bobbie and I
didn’t always want to do what the other members of our families wanted to do.
It wasn’t merely a “when” problem but also a “where” issue. And there was the
travel involved too.
Sometimes Bobbie wanted to celebrate
with her family on the same day and at the exact same as I wanted to celebrate
with my family. And we all know, it is impossible to be in two places at the
same time. In addition, when would we “celebrate” with our children and give
them stability in our home?
with her family on the same day and at the exact same as I wanted to celebrate
with my family. And we all know, it is impossible to be in two places at the
same time. In addition, when would we “celebrate” with our children and give
them stability in our home?
Now remember, holidays and celebrations
are as important to our in-laws as they are to us and our families. The
perplexity enlarges with the addition of each “new family” to our extended
family. And holiday celebrations are about family, so they should be
family-oriented, full of family fun and traditions. Each holiday should be an addition
to the warm memories of our lives.
are as important to our in-laws as they are to us and our families. The
perplexity enlarges with the addition of each “new family” to our extended
family. And holiday celebrations are about family, so they should be
family-oriented, full of family fun and traditions. Each holiday should be an addition
to the warm memories of our lives.
Perhaps we might consider that
family time and blessings can be celebrated whenever and wherever convenient to
everyone involved. We make adjustments at work, at church, and for vacations.
Why not adjust graciously for our families? It’s a peaceful solution.
family time and blessings can be celebrated whenever and wherever convenient to
everyone involved. We make adjustments at work, at church, and for vacations.
Why not adjust graciously for our families? It’s a peaceful solution.
Dear Father, thank you for your gracious
solution to our need. Empower us to find peaceful solutions in our
relationships. This I pray in the name of Jesus. AMEN
solution to our need. Empower us to find peaceful solutions in our
relationships. This I pray in the name of Jesus. AMEN
Be strong and courageous today
making peace,
making peace,